Your Guide

This sensual guide is designed to enhance the pleasure of the lingam massage. Focus on the energetic connection you’re making with your partner. You’re not just touching the body, you’re touching the very core of their sexuality and eroticism.

01

Create the Space

Find a warm and inviting space and set the mood. Don’t forget men can be sensual creatures too, they want to feel spoiled and taken care of by their partner. Make sure both of you feel comfortable. You’re both beginners at this, so relax and try not to put too much pressure on yourselves to have the perfect evening. Have your massage product ready and place a towel or blanket down where your partner will lay — just in case any massage oil drips or splashes.

Set a Timer for 75 Minutes

Take a few deep breaths together, bringing back the tantric breathing you practiced. Next, the partner receiving the massage should lie down. Continue your breathing with the massage-giving partner resting one hand on their partner’s heart and the other hand on their penis. Inhale and Exhale together 5 times, eyes gazing.

02

Lingam Massage Phases

Phase 1: Whole body massage, no penis (lingam)

Phase 2: Whole body massage with penis (lingam)

Phase 3: Just lingam (massage the entire package)

Go slow, communicate. Does that feel good? More pressure or less? Do you want this or that?

You can add your massage oil at any time during the whole body massage or wait until you’ve reached the lingam. As you move from the entire body, make your way around the mons aka where all pubic hair grows.

Do not skip the balls and taint (portion between the scrotum and anus).

Arya Tip: Hardness is not a factor at all. Erections might come and go. The massage is working no matter how hard the lingam is.

03

Main Lingam Massage

Use the Clock Method: Think of the lingam or penis as the hand of the clock. This method is broken into 4 different sections; 6 o’clock, 3 o’clock, 9 o’clock, and 12 o’clock. You will do various hand movements and techniques at each portion/section of the lingam massage. Arya Tip: Every penis is different, your partner may be more or less sensitive at each of the 4 sections you’re focusing on.

Start with the penis facing straight down towards the toes AKA 6 o’clock.

Gently caress, massage, pull, glide, twist, and press the lingam. Alternate between using both of your hands and using your fingers and your thumb. Use your palms to squeeze and press. Think of you’re hand movements during the whole body massage; you’re not simply stroking the lingam up and down — you’re alternating techniques and movements.

Arya Tip: The techniques matter less than the intention you’re working toward. Give each section an equal amount of attention. Continuously check in with your partner about speed and pressure.

Move to 3 o'clock

Repeat the caressing, massaging, pulling, gliding, twisting and pressing. It doesn’t need to be perfect, it just needs to be loving and intentional.

Move to 9 o’clock

Repeat.

Lastly, move the lingam to face straight up towards the stomach or 12 o’clock

This is where the lingam massage will ‘end’. Put extra care and time into touching the skin on the bottom of the penis shaft. For most men, this is the most sensitive part of their penises. Use a thumb circle technique along the length, up and down. Use your thumbs to make circles along the shaft and base of the head of the penis.

Other techniques include:

Gently tapping the fingers

Pulling the whole shaft

Pressing your palm along the bottom of the penis

Remember, this massage is more about the love you’re putting into your hands while you touch your partner, rather than giving the perfect massage.

04

How Do You Want to Complete the Massage?

If your partner is fully aroused, they may want to do a classic stroke to have him reach orgasm. Or incorporate oral pleasure while stroking them.

The masturbation eggs complement the techniques of the lingam massage. Unwrap it, slowly stretch it down the lingam, and twist it up and down to rub the inner ridges along the shaft. Stroke it slow and firm or soft and quick. Twisting and pulling, mimicking the lingam massage actions.

How to transition to the main event:

  1. Continue to use the eggs to stroke and pleasure the lingam

  2. Go down on your partner (or each other) and melt into oral bliss

  3. Toss the toys aside and move into your favorite sex position

If finishing with an orgasm isn’t their intent, finish the lingam massage by placing your hands on their heart and penis again, breathing together, and releasing emotions through tantric breathing. Arya Tip: Don’t be surprised if your partner has some emotional release — it’s normal to feel the urge to cry, moan, laugh, etc.

Congratulations! You’ve finished GLIDE, where you explored a sensual and intentional lingam massage with your partner. By taking the time to fully concentrate on this area of the body in a non-sexual manner, you’ve deepened your bond and had a refreshing experience together.

Make this part of your routine of couple activities — slow down, meditate, and focus on each other.