The Name of the Game is Playing w. Fire

Playing with Fire is an intensely erotic exploration of hot and cold sensations.

This Scene relies on trust with your partner. Everything you do and say will have a reaction, a sensual push and pull of sensations as you explore temperature play with one another. Slow things down. Discover one another in brand new ways. Take every second of these moments in.

What You Need

  • The items in your Arya Box:

    • Massage Oil Candle

    • Low-Temperature Wax Play Candle

    • Cooling Sensual Mints

  • Fire-safe plate or bowl to hold candle

  • Bowl of Ice Water

  • Matches or Lighter

  • An old blanket, waterproof mat, or towels

  • Private space to play

  • Anything else you’ve chosen to AMP UP the Scene

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Prepare the Scene

This Scene requires a bit of preparation in the hour prior to play. Make sure to cover the surface your partner will be laying on with a tarp, towel, or mat. Light your massage oil candle for at least 20 minutes before beginning play to ensure that the wax is melted for use.

You’ll also want a bowl of ice to alternate sensations with your warm candles. Don’t forget to prep any other cold elements you may want to try in advance.

Once you are ready, lead your partner onto the bed, the floor, or any safe, private location. The key to temperature play is alternating sensations; intense heat is soothed by refreshing cold, and a brisk shock of cold can be mitigated by calming warmth. You are the ringmaster of your very own temperature circus, bringing your partner to the brink of each extreme without letting them feel pain. Remember, the goal is to bring pleasure and the indescribably delicious tension between alternating temperature sensations.

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The Main Event

Begin with the massage oil candle. Extinguish the flame and allow the candle to cool slightly. Pour the warm oil over high-tension areas, such as the neck, shoulders, and back, and then slowly work the fragrant oil across their body.

The oil is essential to ensuring your wax play candles don’t harm your partner’s skin once you begin to drip them.

Keep in mind that temperature play thrives on the sweet push and pull of sensations. Alternate between the warmth of your massage oil and the chilling thrill of an ice cube dripping down your partner’s back or legs.

Pop an ice cube in your mouth and kiss your partner deeply. Then, once you both feel ready to level up the sensation intensity, move on to dripping the low-temperature wax onto your partner.

Think back to the fantasy stories that inspired you. This is all about experimentation to find new, unexpected pleasure points.

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Prepare the Scene

Remember that for the most pleasurable experience, this Scene also requires you to communicate. Be vocal if a sensation feels good and be clear if you would like a sensation to stop. Your partner will try to make every touch and sensation they give you feel purposeful and pleasurable.

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The Main Event

Keep in mind that temperature play thrives on the sweet push and pull of sensations. You’ll feel the tantalizing pull between the warmth of your massage oil and the chilling thrill of an ice cube dripping down your back or legs. Then, once you both feel ready to level up the sensation intensity, move on to the Ice Globes and wax candle play.

Do you enjoy being indulged in a sensory experience of hot and cold, but need a little more to get into the mood? Think back to the fantasy story that inspired you and your partner in this Scene. Begin to build a temperature play fantasy of your own from here.

Most importantly, remember this is your time to play. Have fun, try new things, be safe (remember, safety is sexy) and enjoy exploring together!

01

Prepare the Scene

Before you start, we recommend talking with your partner and deciding together who will be in control of the Scene.

If you are the one indulging your partner in a sensory experience of hot and cold, make sure to cover the surface your partner will be laying on with your tarp, towel, or mat. Light your massage oil candle for at least 20 minutes before beginning play to ensure that the wax is melted for use.

You’ll also want a bowl of ice to alternate sensations with your warm candles. Don’t forget to prep any other cold elements you may want to try.

If you are the one being indulged in a sensory experience of hot and cold, remember that for the most pleasurable experience, this Scene also requires you to communicate. Be vocal if a sensation feels good and be clear if you would like a sensation to stop. Your partner will try to make every touch and sensation they give you feel purposeful and pleasurable.

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The Main Event

If you are the partner indulging your partner in a sensory experience of hot and cold, once you are both ready, lead your partner onto the bed, the floor, or any safe, private location. The key to temperature play is alternating sensations; intense heat is soothed by refreshing cold, and a brisk shock of cold can be mitigated by calming warmth. You are the ringmaster of your very own temperature circus, bringing your partner to the brink of each extreme without letting them feel pain. Remember the goal is to bring pleasure and the indescribably delicious tension between alternating temperature sensations.

Begin with the massage oil candle. Extinguish the flame and allow the candle to cool slightly. Pour the warm oil over high-tension areas, such as the neck, shoulders, and back, and then slowly work the fragrant oil across their body. The oil is key to ensuring your wax play candles don’t harm your partner’s skin once you begin to drip them.

Keep in mind that temperature play thrives on the sweet push and pull of sensations. Alternate between the warmth of your massage oil and the chilling thrill of an ice cube dripping down your partner’s back or legs. Consider chilling your fingers in the ice bowl and then massaging your partner’s temples with your fingertips.

Pop an ice cube in your mouth and kiss your partner deeply. Then, once you both feel ready to level up the sensation intensity, move on to alternating between the Ice Wands and dripping the low-temperature wax onto your partner.

Reflect on what you have learned about your partner’s likes and dislikes when being touched or romantically teased. Think back to the fantasy stories that inspired you. Feel emboldened to try new things and help your partner lean into these new sensations. This is all about experimentation to find new, unexpected pleasure points.

If you are the partner being indulged in a sensory experience of hot and cold and need a little more to get into the mood, think back to the fantasy story that inspired you and your partner in this Scene. Begin to build a temperature play fantasy of your own from here.

Most importantly, remember this is your time to play. Have fun, try new things, be safe (remember, safety is sexy) and enjoy exploring together!

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Helpful Tips

  • Experiment with how you let the wax fall on your partner’s body. Try dripping it, pouring it, or letting it roll down the skin. You can treat the body as a canvas and layer the wax spots to play with different patterns.

    Don’t forget to alternate with cool elements like ice, your Ice Wands, or even the coolness of your breath.

  • The only thing you want to burn here is your candle. Make sure you don’t have any flammable things (including underwear, drapes, hairspray, or alcohol) near your open flames when playing with fire. You should also make sure you have a wet towel or extra water nearby, just in case!

    If you want to play with wax throughout the Scene, keep the candle burning on a fire-safe plate or bowl.

  • Protect your bed or floor by covering the area where you will play; you can use a tarp, old blanket, waterproof mat, or towels.

    When you’re done using your candle, keep it smoke-free by snuffing out your candle in the bowl of ice water that you have on hand. It’s quick, easy, and mess-free!

  • Make sure to avoid any area of your or your partner’s body that is particularly hairy (this is only a concern for wax candle play). Massage oil can be dripped and licked just about anywhere. If needed, discuss the importance of shaving backs, stomachs, or legs before beginning your wax play session.

  • As always, communication is a top priority. Establish all of the boundaries before you start playing. Negotiate where on the body the wax will go, how much wax will be used, and any techniques that you want to try. Once you’ve started to play, be sure to check in with your partner throughout.

  • Be sure to check the temperature on yourself first, to see how hot your candle is. Do a patch test on your arm or hand and then start by dripping wax farther above your partner’s skin; the more distance you create between your candle and your partner’s body, the more time the wax has to cool before reaching their skin. You can then experiment with moving closer to their skin after seeing their reaction.

    It’s advised that you always keep candles at least a foot away from the body, to avoid unintentional pain.

  • One of the greatest sex tools of all time, your mouth can also be heated or cooled to create new levels of oral pleasure as you lick, suck, or nibble your partner’s body. Using your mouth also creates a greater sense of intimacy as you share the sensation of the temperatures together.

    To take the heat up, warm your mouth with a hot drink before sharing the warmth with your partner. To give your oral delights an icy touch, hold an ice cube in your mouth before teasing your partner’s most sensitive spots.

  • Removing the wax is the best part for some people, and there are many options to do so. You can use an ice cube to harden the wax, which will give a nice cooling sensation for the receiver and can make removal easier. You can also use your fingernails to scrape them off, experimenting with how gentle or rough you do this. You can also try slowly peeling it off or removing it very quickly.

    Once the majority is off, you can use a wet towel to wipe up any residue.

  • Things will inevitably go wrong! Your candle flame may keep going out or an ice cube may slip out of your hands and slide across the floor. IT IS OK. This is playtime.

    Laugh. Talk to each other. Part of being adventurous together is learning from your mistakes together. It is a funny secret that only the two of you will share.