Mindful Masturbation
This is the ultimate guide to self-love and self-care — it’s not about racing to climax.
It’s not about the BIG O
It’s the journey of relaxation, releasing the pressure of reaching that goal. It’s about embracing the bliss and going with the flow. Treat yourself to a little “me time” and indulge in this sacred practice. Get ready for a sensual adventure that will leave you feeling more connected, more relaxed AND oh-so-sexy. You DESERVE an incredibly orgasmic experience.
Step 1: Get Cozy and Confident
Find a space where you can truly relax and be yourself. Whether it’s in your bedroom, living room, or even the kitchen (oh-la-la), make it your satisfaction sanctuary. Dim the lights, play some sultry tunes, and set the mood for a sensational adventure.
Step 2: Set Your Intention
What do you desire from this leisurely session? More pleasure? Stress relief? Self-love exploration? Set your intention and keep it close to your thoughts. Maybe your intention is to share this with your partner so they can learn to tease you EVEN better.
Step 3: Breathe, Babe!
Take a moment to center yourself and take a few deep breaths. Inhale the excitement and exhale any tension. This is YOUR time and you deserve every tantalizing moment of it. As you get into the groove, let your breath guide you. Take slow, deep breaths, allowing the pleasure to wash over you. You can even add some seductive moans as you exhale (ohhh kinky).
Step 4: Slow and Sensual
Masturbation isn’t about rushing to the finish line but savoring every sensation. Take your time to touch, tease, and seduce yourself. This is a love affair with your own body.
Step 5: Be Curious, Be Adventurous
Don’t stick to the usual routine – explore new erogenous zones and discover what really drives you wild. Always use your right hand, try using your left hand instead (or vice versa). Maybe you ALWAYS apply pressure with your toy to your specific sensitive spot (you know the one), instead, use those toys along your stomach or inner thighs. Teasing your skin. Arya Tip: If you usually watch something visually erotic (aka pornography) see how it feels to tune out— leaving it off will shift you away from masturbation auto-pilot and allow you to connect with your body.
Step 6: Love, Touch, and Tease
Remember, this is a night of self-love and self-discovery. Be patient, compassionate, and kind to yourself as you caress and indulge in every titillating stroke. It’s ALL about odyssey over orgasm. It’s not a race to the BIG O finish line.
Step 7: Push Your Boundaries
Who said you have to stay in the bedroom? Take this intimate affair to different rooms and experiment with different positions. You can try masturbating on all fours or bent over the kitchen counter. OR lying on the floor of your living room as you stare up at your ceiling – letting your mind wander with exciting fantasies of you and your partner.
Step 8: Revel in Your Awesomeness
After your sensual, solo rendezvous, take a moment to celebrate YOU. You’ve indulged in self-love and discovered new pleasurable sensations. Don’t forget to repeat and relish – make it a regular affair. Each session is a chance to learn, explore AND own your pleasure.