Aftercare Worksheet

Think about your answers and share them with your partner.

1. How do you prefer to communicate your aftercare needs?

   1. Direct conversation before or after the Scene

   2. Signals or words during a Scene

   3. Written notes or plans

2. How much time do you generally need for aftercare? This may depend on the type of Scene you’re having.

3. Do you have specific aftercare needs for this specific type of Scene?

4. Please number and rate your TOP FIVE aftercare needs:

   • Quiet time alone

   • Physical cuddling

   • Warm blankets or clothes

   • Hydration (water or electrolyte drinks)

   • Light snacks or specific foods

   • Warm bath or shower (together or separate)

   • Cool compress for overheated or sore areas

   • Comforting music or sounds

   • Low lighting or darkness

   • Verbal reassurance, affection, or praise

   • Watch a favorite movie or show

   • Deep, calm breathing exercises

   • Gentle massage

   • Space or time after the Scene to debrief or talk about the Scene

   • Journaling or writing down thoughts and feelings

   • Quiet activities like reading, puzzles, or coloring

   • Do a hobby

   • Access to professional support like a therapist or counselor

   • Sleep or nap

   • Physical exercise or stretching

   • Time in nature or fresh air/outside

   • Playing with a pet

   • Aromatherapy or calming scents

   • Tea or warm beverage

   • Holding a comforting object like a stuffed animal, pillow, blanket, etc.

   • Safety or grounding techniques for emotional regulation

   • Time to meditate or practice mindfulness

   • Discuss future Scenes

   • Other

   My top five are:

5. After a Scene, I prefer my partner to check in with me…

   1. Immediately after

   2. In 30 mins to 2 hours

   3. Tomorrow

6. Specifically, I prefer:

   1. Hydration Preferences:

   2. Nourishment Preferences:

   3. Temperature Preference:

   4. Other Comforts:

7. Anything else your partner should know?