How to Give an Unforgettable Massage
Giving your partner a sensual massage doesn’t have to be difficult or overly complicated. As long as you have massage oil and hands willing to do some work, you’re ready.
The Basics
To give your partner a sensual massage they won’t soon forget, you’ll want to start with mastering a few basic massage techniques.
The most essential technique is applying pressure. Place one hand flat on your partner’s body, and then place your other hand on top of it to apply firm pressure in a downward motion. You might keep your top hand flat, or you might angle it at a 45-degree angle to help add gentle force. Communicate with your partner to determine their ideal level of pressure on each part of their body.
You’ll want to diversify your hand motions to create as many soothing sensations as possible for your partner. One of our favorites is called fanning. It’s perfect for massaging larger areas like the back or stomach. Fanning is a wonderful way to warm large sections of your partner’s body and ease them into their massage session.
After applying massage oil to your hands and rubbing them together to create warmth, place your hands palm down with fingers together on your partner’s body. Then, as you begin to move your hands over your partner’s skin, apply increasing amounts of pressure as you spread your fingers out and move your hands in circular motions.
For high stress areas like the biceps, thighs, and buttocks, try incorporating a kneading hand motion. This technique is one of the most effective ways to relieve muscle tension. After you’ve warmed the area with massage oil and your soothing touch, angle your hand on the muscle at a 45-degree angle so that you apply firm pressure with the heel or palm of your hand. You can rock your hand back and forth, gradually deepening your pressure into the muscle. Check in with your partner to ensure your pressure feels right to them.
The Flow
Now, let’s outline a few ways to deliver a massage that feels seamless, with each section flowing smoothly for your partner. You want to spend at least 5 minutes on each major area of their body before slowly moving on to the next.
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We suggest starting with your partner lying on their stomach. This way, they have no choice, but to close their eyes and focus on your touch. Ease your partner into the massage by slowly running your warm hands up and down their back, letting them become accustomed to the feeling of your hands on their skin
Next, apply massage oil to your palms, rubbing your hands together to warm the oil before placing your hands on your partner. This is the perfect time to start with the fanning technique, applying pressure with your palms and spreading your fingers as you move in circles all along their back and shoulders.
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Your partner might hold a lot of tension in their shoulders (many people do!). Your partner may want you to use intense pressure to ease knots of tension around their shoulder blades, or this might be a sensitive area for them where too much pressure can be more painful than pleasant. Communicate with your partner here to see what feels best for them.
While you show the shoulders love, use this time to also gently massage your partner’s neck and the area behind their ears. Apply pressure with your fingertips as you move up the back of their neck and further behind their ears. It’s a very sensitive area, so you can be playful alternating smooth strokes with light tingling touches.
The back is a wide area with many different pressure points. From the top of their neck, slide your fingers, still applying the pressure down your partner’s spine. Make sure you’re sliding your hands in slow and controlled movements. Don’t forget the lower back, where flattening your palms and fanning out your fingers can provide calming relief.
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Once you finished working your partner’s back, slide down towards their buttocks. Your partner may be shy or feel embarrassed, but the glutes are one of the body’s largest and most used muscles. Help ease them into this wonderfully relaxing sensation by first warmly caressing and lightly rubbing their cheeks. Then, if your partner feels relaxed and open, begin to use your knuckles or heel of your hand to knead the muscle. Take time to appreciate your partner’s attractive curves and make them feel your adoration with your touch.
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As you continue your journey down your partner’s body, it’s time to massage their legs. Use the fanning technique to slide down and up the back of your partner’s legs. Feel free to add a light kneading motion to the backs of their thighs. If they like the pressure, spend a few moments really focusing on releasing the tension in their hamstrings.
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Foot massages can be divisive. For some, having their feet rubbed is a glorious indulgence. While, for others, the idea of someone touching their feet is repulsive. Ask your partner how they feel about this sensitive area before attempting to massage their feet. If they are ready for you to dig in, the key words are Use Your Thumbs!
Use your thumbs to apply pressure to the bottom of the foot, moving in circular and sliding motions as you go. Focus on the arch of the foot, heel, and pads. Slowly stretch the foot as well to relieve joint tension and encourage further relaxation.
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Ask your partner to turn on their back so you can work on the front of their body. You may want to cover their eyes with a blindfold or warm wash cloth to help them stay relaxed.
Start this portion of their massage by targeting their arms and hands. First, warm the arms with your hands and massage oil. Then, begin kneading the muscles along the arms, alternating pressure and sensation with your fingertips.
Hands hold a lot of our daily stress, so don’t skip this important area. Think of the zone between your partner’s thumb and forefinger as the central nerve in the hand. Firmly massage the area and watch your partner’s hand instantly relax.
Listen to your partner to guide your next movements across their chest and stomach. We recommend using the fanning technique and using your fingertips to lightly caress any sensitive erogenous zones.
Arya Tip: Reapply the massage oil often! Massage is much more pleasurable when your hands aren’t creating friction.
The Erotic Part
By now, your partner should be fully relaxed and satisfied with their royal treatment. Job well done!
But if you want to make the experience more sexual, then you might consider turning the sensual massage into an erotic one.
In order to do that, you want to focus on activating your partner’s less commonly known erogenous zones like inner wrists, breasts, the nape of the neck, inner thighs, lower belly, buttocks, and behind their knees.
Erotic massage is all about building up sensation and sexual tension. You want to heighten your partner’s desire without fully giving into it. For example, if your partner is laying on their back, start working on their hands, moving up to their wrists where you draw circles, and then gently caress up the length of their arms. As you get closer to their chest or breasts, be careful to only massage the flesh without touching the nipples. You may activate their desire further by lightly licking or gently blowing your cool breath across their nipples, but never giving the relief of a full touch.
Heat things up even further by gently massaging your way down their abdominal area, going as far as their pubic area, but no further. Move down their inner thighs, massaging the muscles or simply caressing with your fingertips. Get as close to their most sensitive area as you can without directly touching it, teasing them with each movement.
When your partner is writhing with arousal, you can choose how to grant them release. Just remember not all massage oil is condom safe or made for internal use.
