Reward System
Creating your own reward system for your Dominant/submissive dynamic can be an exciting and intimate way to explore your roles and increase your connection. A Dom/sub reward system is designed to reinforce your desired behaviors and maintain a balance of power, making the roleplaying both structured and fun. This system involved setting clear expectations and using a mix of rewards and punishments to guide the exploration and enhance your mutual satisfaction.
Rewards
Rewards in a Dom/sub dynamic can look different ways, depending on what you both find motivating and enjoyable. You should reward your submissive for following their rules, showing exceptional obedience, or completing tasks set by the Dominant partner.
Here are some examples:
Physical Rewards: Extra cuddle sessions, sensual massages, pats on the head, giving your partner an orgasm or allowing them to orgasm.
Gifts: These can be favorite treats or something they’ve been wanting to buy. Small, thoughtful gifts can show appreciation. Don’t overthink these items.
Words and Compliments: Praise, affectionate words, or acknowledging your partner's efforts can be incredibly rewarding. A compliment or simple “good girl/boy/pet” can go a long way in making your submissive feel loved.
Punishments
On the flip side, punishments are used to correct unwanted behavior and maintain command. They are typically given for breaking rules, showing disrespect, or failing to complete tasks.
These can include:
Spankings: Impact play can be used as punishment, as long as it's consensual and within your agreed-upon limits.
Withholding Favorite Treats or Privileges: Denying access to something the submissive enjoys can effectively reinforce your agreed-upon rules.
Orgasm Denial: Teasing your submissive but not allowing them to have an orgasm can be a powerful motivator or reminder of Command.
Punishments Vs. Funishments
Punishments are genuinely meant to correct unwanted behavior and may be less enjoyable for the submissive, while funishments are playful and pleasurable even if they involve a bit of discomfort for your submissive. Funishments can be used for minor infractions or as a playful way to keep things interesting and novel.
Playful Funishments to explore can include:
light tickling
playful spanking
wearing a slightly embarrassing outfit for a short time
doing a silly dance
writing a funny story on why they love their Dom
sexual edging
Starting a reward system within your relationship dynamic is a playful and erotic way to explore power exchange. For the Dominant, it gives you the means to guide and shape your submissive’s behavior. While the submissive finds motivation and satisfaction in pleasing your Dominant.