Enter a Roleplay Headspace
You’ve selected the roleplay scenario you want to try out but now you don’t know how to start the Scene with your partner. This is where couples get ‘stuck’. You may feel silly or apprehensive at first, but roleplaying isn’t complicated — you simply need to start.
Get into your role
The easiest way to slip into your alter ego? Start with texting each other. Use the names you picked out and start using language and tone that feels like your role, such as:
“Hi Daddy, how has your day been?”
“Hello little one, are you having a good day?”
“Hello Sir, I’m so excited to please you tonight”
“Hi Mistress, I can’t wait to serve you tonight”
Texting is roleplaying without the pressure of ‘acting’ in front of each other. You can play around with different scenarios and sexting to really build the anticipation.
Don’t lose the role in person
This is the trickiest transition, not losing your alter ego when you meet up in real life. The Dominant partner can help the submissive partner continue their headspace by giving instructions via text for them to do in person, such as:
“When you get home, I want you to strip down naked and wait for me in the bedroom”
“I want you to make me a drink and have it waiting for me”
“After the kids go to bed, strip down naked and wait for me in the bedroom. I want you to wait in a kneeling position”
Or the submissive partner can help the Dominant partner take the lead, such as:
“I only want to serve you, how do you want me waiting for you? Kneeling? Laying in the bed? Completely naked?”
“How can I please you?”
“I made you a drink, when you get home, meet me in the bedroom”
These prompts will help you stay in the headspace when you finally meet up for your IRL Scene.
Begin your roleplay Scene
You’ve been texting all day, playing out your roles, and moving toward your in-person rendezvous — now it’s time to officially start your roleplay Scene.
Change your clothes: Put on something that will help you get into your headspace. It could be lingerie or a silky robe. Or the Dominant partner can be fully clothed in an outfit that makes them feel powerful, while the submissive partner is naked or in something exposing.
Location: It might feel weird pretending to be someone else in your own bedroom, so move to another part of your home. Or make this a hotel tradition. If your bedroom is your only option, take your time setting up into a ‘new feeling’ space.
Commands: The Dominant partner can start giving the submissive partner various commands, such as, what to wear, where to wait, what position they need to be in, what music to put on, what drinks or foods to have ready, etc.
End your roleplay Scene
You can choose to end your roleplay Scene however it feels best for you and your partner. This could be before you move to the check main event or your roleplay can go all the way until the end. Or maybe you broke halfway through — that’s okay!
Arya Tip: If at any time, your roleplay scenario became too intense or you simply needed a break from it, use your safeword to end the Scene and transition into something that’s more comfortable for you.
Transition out of your role
Come down from your headspace with the help of aftercare. If you were a demanding Dominant, start taking care of your submissive partner by getting them water, snuggling them, wiping them down, or starting their shower. If you were the submissive partner, verbally check in with your Dom — give them a hug and talk about the Scene.