Power Exchange
Add a New Level of Excitement with Power Exchange
It’s all about exploring Dominance and submission within the context of a sexual activity.
Power plays offer a range of benefits, allowing you to explore your sexual fantasies safely, reducing sexual shame and stigma – plus it’ll destigmatize those of you who are sexually adventurous. This can lead to happier and healthier personal and erotic experiences.
Studies have shown that taking away the pressures of daily responsibility in a safe and sensual environment is something many people crave in power play scenarios. It’s been noted, that women are much more likely than men to take part in the submissive role, But many switch between roles as desired, depending on partner’s gender, identity, or mood. Ultimately, sexual power play provides a safe platform to explore power dynamics, with the potential to create a transcendent, altered state of consciousness (aka a blissful headspace).
It’s all about exploring the dynamics of control in the bedroom.
The best part? You can make it your own. Stay within your comfort levels to find the perfect balance of Dominance and submission.
Three Types of Dynamics to Explore:
Dominant/submissive Play:
For some, Dominant/submissive play provides an exhilarating sense of power and control. By exploring your own boundaries, you can experience a role reversal in the bedroom and safely enjoy relinquishing control to your partner. As the dominant partner, you’ll take on a directive attitude while your submissive partner eagerly follows your orders. The secret to success is in setting parameters and boundaries that both of you are comfortable with, and each of you can explore your roles without feeling too overwhelmed.
Owner/servant Play:
Do you ever think about what it’s like to be the ultimate ruler in the bedroom? Owner/servant play is a great way for you two to roleplay and explore different levels of power and control. You can adjust the degree of intensity to meet your own comfort level, all the while allowing you to experience a naughty and tantalizing side of sex without feeling too inhibited or vulnerable. All that’s needed is communication and trust, and you’ll feel empowered and in control.
Pet Play:
Does playing dress-up have a naughty side? With pet play, you can explore how different characters reveal something new about your sexuality. To get started, you’ll want to pick an animal you can relate to (such as a fox, cat, dog, bunny, etc). As the pet, you surrender all control to your partner as “owner” — this could mean wearing a collar and leash, a wild costume, and acting out your role like a playful fox, a fiesty kitten, a people-pleasing puppy, or sweet bunny. As the pet, you’ll get to dive into your wildest desires, while your owner denotes the rules — it’s every bit as captivating as it sounds.
Get Comfortable with Each Other
Ensure you’re both on the same page and set simple boundaries — taking the time to communicate. Be open about what you’re looking to explore and what kinds of sexual activities you’re interested in, as well as your limits. Once you and your partner are on the same page, you can move on to the kinky stuff.
Begin slowly and ease into things. Don’t rush and keep an eye out for signs of discomfort. Build up trust and guarantee you’re both comfy with whatever is happening. It’s important to remember sexual power play is something you can continually work on and evolve as time goes on.
The most important part of power play is building your confidence.
Here’s a simple way to get going:
Decide who’s ‘in command’ and who is ‘surrendering’
Determine your safewords and practice using them before your Scene
Discuss both of your expectations of the power exchange
What are the rules
How will you reward each other
Will there be any ‘punishments’ for not following directions
Are there any “hard no” words, sensations, or body parts you don’t want to explore
Be detailed in your commands and understanding of your partner’s new role as a submissive (or Dominant)
Play around with different titles like the Dominant partner like Master, Sir, Mistress, or Ma’am. And names like servant, little one, princess/prince, or pet for the submissive partner.
It’s totally normal for the submissive to guide the scene – what they like, what they don’t, what their safe word is, and how much intensity they can handle. You may be asking yourself “Who’s really in charge here?” Actually, this is a common belief in the BDSM community – the submissive is the person allowing the Dominant to take control.
This may be a thrilling new experience for both of you, so start slow and communicate with each other throughout this new type of play.
